My, my, my... a girl goes away for a bit and the thread gets action!! Thanks all.... things happen durinig a week away from home.

Lily.... LITM... I like that a lot. Makes good sense. What else can we do?!

Mother's Day... a little tough.. but H really made it nice day. Three red roses... (haven't had roses, never mind red, since forever.) breakfast omelletes (with the left over lobster I brought home from business trip), a little wine, AND dinner too, post-hockey game of course! [Big Grin]
Never mind how we started the day.... [Wink] [Big Grin]

Another thing came up H mentioned the day before. FFC - female friend confidante at his work who knows about his FC and apparently condones it - has some work for my H in the off season from work. He does this off season. I really have a problem with this, and as nice as it would be to take her money, H spends enough time with her at work during the year and spending more time with her in summer doesn't cut it with me.

In an OR inspired sort of way - I have already suggested in a backhand way that his doing work for FFC - a little over my boundary line but ever so subtely that I'm not sure he got what I meant.

Is it unreasonable to just out right TELL him that I would prefer he NOT take her measly job (we won't starve if he doesn't do it that's for sure.) for him... it's a self esteem thing more than anything... validation of his many skills nd talents... my C's thinking anyway. I don't think I can let this one go. My feeling is FFC should just find herself someone else to do her little jobs and my H really needs to focus on stuff at our home. But to say it in such a way that he doesn't get totally ticked. I've NEVER drawn a line over his friends or colleagues... ever... but I'm totally NOT comfortable with this one, especially his 'best friend' status with this one and what they talk about.

Geez... can just imagine IMP on this one! [Roll Eyes]

I still need to re read all your thoughtful comments and digest it all.
Need to start a new thread... hmmmm and call it what???

more.... later eh?
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