Poohpah, a really good friend once told me he's seen a lot of people divorce over the years and what he usually sees is the one big fight that splits the couple up, and then a chain reaction of one hurting the other until reconciliation seems impossible. I know for myself, I felt so deeply hurt that my husband left me, I felt no recourse other than divorce. Now he is asking me to consider reconciliation, but on the other hand is fine with me dating other men (??). This doesn't sound too promising to me. But at least we met and talked.
I think that's what you need to do with your guy. Phone him and try to meet if you can, if he's willing. Face to face is really best. It's your m-a-r-r-i-a-g-e, face to face is worth it. The thing to do is drop our pride and just let the other person know what WE want. After that, we have no control what our ex's say or decide. But whatever, they do say or decide, I believe completely informs our next move.
