Honestly I would get moving and do it, but here's the thing. I left him because he went crazy on me (as he usually does) in our last argument. I was showering and he picked the lock to the door, came in, ripped the shower curtain down, and threatened to hurt me. I was so humiliated. He called me every name in the book and told me to go home to my family if I wasn't going to listen to him. So I packed and left. Over the months he admitted our argument was stupid and got out of hand but he cannot control his anger and abusive words to me. I thought he would calm down. Then he told me if I didn't come back we would have to get a divorce. Whether he said it out of anger or whatever else, I took him seriously and I agreed because he was also jeopardizing my citizenship application. Throughout it all he claimed he didn't want a divorce, BUT he kept up the anger and the nasty emails and calls to me and my family. So time passed and I wanted him to calm down but he didn't. So I had no choice but to go ahead with the divorce. At that point he said he was happy to divorce me. I don't know if all this is out of anger but I do know that both people are very hurt and have alot of pride. I still love him, and that's why I hoped he would calm down and we could work it out. But seems he calmed down and walked away too. So yes, I would be the first to approach the topic if I thought I was totally to blame for drop-kicking him to the curb, but don't you think he had some major wrongs? And maybe he really didn't love me, cause anyone who did what he did probably doesn't love the other person. And maybe as you said I am afraid of getting a mean response from him...yes it could happen...so maybe I should just not bother. I just don't know.
