Hi TrEE, here I go again sounding totally unlike myself but also going against the tide (that has got to do something weird to the universe [Eek!] ).

Anyway, I think initiating OR talks when you haven't been while you are greiving for your mother is totally NOT a good idea. No way no how. Emotions are just too raw.

Take care of TrEE. Let him take care of himself. In time maybe you'll see what you're ready to do. I've already tossed out from my own experience but a) it was for later and b) what works for me may not for you. Now just doesn't seem to be the time to push any of it.

God bless you sweetie. And keep taking care of yourself. Really.