My wife left in April. In May I found out that she left, among other reasons, for another married man. She at denied that there was another man when she left, but I found her cell phone bill and found a cell phone number that had been called repeatedly.
I confronted her about it, and she reluctantly admitted that she met him in Feb. and has been sleeping with him since April, and that she "loves him."
She has shown no remorse or guilt at all. She has stopped going to our marriage counseling. She tells me that she will come home when she wants to, not when she has to. Of course, she says that she doesn't love me anymore and does not want to be close to me again.
Her apartment is in a city 30 minutes from our house. He lives in the same city. She tells me that she knew she would get caught, and that she ended it with him the next day. How can I be sure? I don't know where her apartment is, but he does. It's too simple to be true.
I don't feel like I have gotten past the anger over the affair, so I've pulled a 180-LRT. I changed the ph. # and the locks. I am doing everything I can to become stronger for me, but please help with your feedback.
Should I forgive her? I realize affairs start usually because of neglect or isolation from the spouse, so I am partly to blame for giving her reason to stray. However, I'm not the one doing "missionary work" in this relationship. Does she even deserve forgiveness? Help! Thanks.
