Exactly..so each sich must be taken on it's own merit.
Part of it I believe is that as we use DB ideas to improve our listening skills and we begin to see things clearer we armour ourselves for the OR talks..we don't react as much..our spouses don't react as much and so they are not as painful.
I think Michelles "no OR talk" edict is a way of protecting us during the first few weeks of "post bombness" but as we progress on our journey we can tweak and adjust as needed.
