It's hard trying to figure out what to do. You remember how I'd do the OR talks even when Duchess and you cautioned me to avoid them. Yes, I got emotionally burned a couple of times but I needed the data.
Then H started talking a bit then a bit more. There's one subject we have let slide into our past history. (I bet you're guessing the PA---Bingo!!!!). I can handle this because I KNOW he has finally moved on. It was the not knowing how he regarded her that kept triggering my emotional roller coaster re our sit. I realize that anothere person 'in your marriage' is only a symptom of the health of your marriage. Yet I had to know that the contamination was gone before I could stop picking at the scab, so to speak.
I saw in H's log that he'd said good-bye to OW. I made myself wait forever, hoping he'd tell me the scenario, but that didn't happen. I finally asked him , "Have you moved on" and kissed him silly when he said, "Oh I forgot to tell you that I closed that door one day last month. Wrote it down in my log at work; I'll show you. . .etc."
Big sigh...time to move on to another section that needs piecing. That turned out to be the eggshell caution. I decided I didn't want to live my life like that. Turns out H was waiting for me to relax.
You and your H can't read each other's minds. Just ask him for a clarification re status of the FA.
