Hi tree -- thought I'd come visit you over here for a change. It's nice here. Not so desperate. I hope I'll be coming to live here soon.

I just wanted to tell you I'm sorry about your mother. It must be very difficult for you and I hope you know that we're all thinking about you and sending our love and strength.

I really like what Andy said -- about "have to" and "want to." That makes a lot of sense, but sometimes I know Fred has done exactly what he didn't want to do because he felt he had to. At least that's how he explains it to himself. So, as I understand what Andy's saying, it's really the same thing. He DOES want to because regardless of whether he wanted to exercise his choice, he did have one. And, wanting to do the "right" thing (i.e., obligation) is wanting to. Am I getting that, Andy? Maybe the problem is that they don't want to want.

Anyway, here's me -- [Cool] -- wishing you well.

Take care,
wilma

I learn by going where I have to go. ~Theodore Roethke