This morning he and I talked about a proposed trip to Florida. It would be the first time in 22 years that I would close my daycare and it was hard to believe that H was serious when he would mention going down there. He tooked out the Day-Timer, blocked out 2 weeks (after asking my imput on the dates) then CALLED my sister to lock it in w her schedule. While on the phone w her, he brought up the subject of the property next to hers. We'd looked at it in Feb but I thought he was just shootin' the breeze about it. On the phone he mentioned to her that maybe we'll be able to look at some more property; we're serious about retiring there. Oh my God! That's 12 years from now; he's definitely talking about a future WITH me. To my elder sister, at that!
Mind you, he could not say to me that he loves me but this was a tangible indication that he is working on the R.
Andy suggested I hang my hat over on this forum. I'm starting to feel balanced and secure in our M. I gotta come up w my new db goals for this rebuilding phase though.
I've decided that I have covered all that I needed to say/ all that H willinly can say via the R talks. I'm planning to put them on hold for awhile OR deal w whatever H might need to share.
I feel like I did my personal forgiveness of the OW and that was really important to my sense of healing. I thought about buying a rose, snipping one of the thorns off it and sending her the thorn to symbolize that she was no longer a thorn in my side. LOL.
Anyways. . .I enjoy reading your boast and listning to your advice.
You know how you've encouraged buying new lingerie? I'm revamping my stuff now but am doing it a little differently and a little at a time. First, I very quietly, one piece at a time, replaced all my H's underwear. A couple of 'not his style' shirts are mysteriously losing buttons due to loose threads. I figure by the Florida vacation to have removed all the clothing he might have worn while around the OW. Then I'm going to Victoria's Secret!
