Yes it's ethical...it's a "support group". Is AA unethical? When you go there...there is nothing but strangers in the room. Is going to a therapist who doesn't know you....unethical? If you feel what you are doing isn't on the up and up...then tell your fiancee that you are participating on here. Invite her to join in. You never know...she might. That's what I did with my H....he knows I post here, he knows he's welcome to read anything I post (even the vents). He views this as my place to come and vent or receive solid feedback though....and chooses not to particpate on here.
IMPO...it's only unethical if YOU hide it from her.
