quote:Originally posted by treesa2: Andy what's with the ?????
I was just razzing you about the fact that we often come out on opposite sides of the OR talk issue, and it worked for lily.
As to YOUR foray into the OR talk arena...
Tree, I just gotta say that you approached it all wrong.
OR talks are not tests. You were trying to elicit a reaction out of him and it backfired on you.
I think it would have been better if you simply told him about the infection. If he feels akward talking about plumbing things, how do you think he felt when he found out that he reacted like a jackass without having this little bit of info?
As to the fear factor. You're absolutely right. None of us wants to hear negatives about ourselves or OR. You don't and he doesn't. And that's the barrier (remember the wall?) to the intimacy we want.
In theory, OR talks bring us close together. We all know that this is a load of krap. When we concentrate on the negatives, it does anything BUT bring us close together.
So, the way to handle OR talks is to keep everything above board, and to keep it short. The idea is to learn from it without generating a negative "aura" around the R.
Gotta go now. I don't know if I articulated this properly, but ya know I luv ya tree.
