Hey folks... so I tested my H a bit this past week. Not sure if this was good or bad.

I had not been feeling 100% and figured I had some kind of infection of the plumbing variety. My interest in sex was... rather low because of this. H.. slides into bed and the first night I had been fast asleep and he attempted to wake me up... I did the dead fish thing and he left me alone.
Next night he came to bed a little earlier but I faked it that night.
Next morning he initiated again and I said... not today Hon. ALL THE WHILE I am waiting for him to ask me WHY NOT? But does he.... NOOOOOOOOO
Worse... he did this petulant child thing and turned his back to me and wouldn't let me touch him. Is this pride? ego ? what? I saw the doctor on day three who confirmed my suspicions and I am now on meds to deal with that, and feeling a bit better already!
I told him about the infection after I got home with the prescription and two hours at the doc's office and he said nothing, nada, not a word... except for a little humour about the kind of meds I was on...

So... OR talk just on this point alone... not going to happen. I guess my little test - seeing if he would ask "what's wrong" bombed ... he didn't. and he won't. What IS that about anyway??? If he can't come down to what I consider a basic kind of thing... HOW will we ever make progress elsewhere? sheeesh...

So MEE define OR talk for me... what you are talking about doesn't sound like OR as much as every day communication. If ORs make him turn into the antiHusband... why would you want to go there?
I think, like me who avoids OR at all costs in spite of all my rambling right this moment.. there is a FEAR of not wanting to hear negatives about US... or HIM... OR=BAD so... we puke and lose weight and assume instead. also not good... but less bad than ORs Does THIS make ANY sense???

I find that talking ABOUT the relationship just doesn't do it for me... what's the point? How does it solve anything... It seems that action or change of action is more obvious...

I do want MORE... there are just times when I do NOT know what that "more" is??

So action instead of talk for now... My H is here.. he keeps coming around, he talks more, he wants to know where I am... most of the time... but he steps back a bit too... so I figure ( or assume?) we are moving forward.... sort of.

Andy what's with the ?????

Lil.... you're getting there too. coffee's in pot... help yourself. Sugar in the cupboard and cream or milk in the fridge? How about a two bite brownie? Or drop by the Duchess place for tea... although I hear rumours that the drinks trolley is coming around shortly

[ February 07, 2002: Message edited by: treesa2 ]