If I receive a certain V Day card which I saw w H's stuff then I will be moving over to this thread.
Do you still have the sense of walking on eggshells w your R? I don't feel that sensation so I guess that's good. . .don't need any eggy messes underfoot in the new digs, eh?
About OR talks. My H thinks things are moving in the right direction when we talk. Goes to show how much he missed the intimacy of communication w me. For us the OR turn out to be a benefical 180. He initiates them MOSTLY.