So glad you've finally joined us'ns over here! And I agree with Kent - you belong because you believe you do. There are no rules as to who's in and who's not.
I can relate to the stagnant feelings you have...it seems to just drift from one day into another without many changes. I guess I really am a drama queen....or is it getting close again-yup-just past the 30-day mark (hormone thing-sorry if that's TMI guys).
Another poster on another thread (Matilda - on um...infidelity I think) has been having some great talks with another poster LSM, both are dealing with recovering....good reads.
Well, there is one thing...a good thing...drifting is peaceful and serene....there is no yelling or fighting....and very little crying! That's a good thing. I suppose it's a trade off...no more (bad) surprises - and we drift along, and just live.
I know it can be frustrating tho - and being the self-labeled drama queen I am, for some strange reason I expect that my H will some day come to me and actually TALK to me. Not about 'hi honey how was your day' and the like, I mean really talk....about why, what led him to break his vow. I know why he 'came back' but I want HIM to tell me what got him there. For now, I live with the "I don't know" man. And that's fine, for now, because we really are moving along with things....as long as I go on like nothing ever happened....but wait - isn't that how it's supposed to be?
