Ya know... I thought I'd move over to a slower paced thread where the messages don't get to page 7 in the first three hours of the day. I needed to start a new thread anyway, but not sure where I fit.

So knowing my friend Andy will be reading... I'll ask him please Andy to do the magic hoo haa of linking up my story. The first thread from March of 01 has disappeared somewhere but the tap dancing one must be oh around page 10 I would guess

So bottom line.... bomb - October 2000 - bitter and uncomfortable for 9 loooong months... haardly any talking, still slept in the same bed, managed the kids - he told no one excpet one person - a woman - he works with. He also told her about his secret fantasy crush on a woman he works with who is 20 years younger. I learned about the fantasy EA a week before Christmas 2000. Have been to counselling, working on myself still and watching slowlee slowlee as we move forward.

July 1 2001 fireworks... sex, but no kissing at all. December 23rd... kissing... vertically too not just in the sack. Always on his terms still, If I initiate a kiss... I get the cheek sigh...
Very nice presents this year... and more talking. Still not "dating" or talking of going away together or anything like that. Family vacation talk still goes on, future talk about work and house still go on... but he won't get personal or deep with me at all. To be fair... I don't ask or go to deep into those kind of conversations either.

so NOW what??? More of the same? Keep doing what I am doing? it appears to be working. Very few back slides these days. Every now and again I go sort of dusky just to test him. It appears to work. When I see him getting cranky and retreating to his cave I leave him be, although I do ask about bad days now and let him know that I recognize a change in his behavior and attitude.

busted? or bent? getting there? or plateaued? Gotta thank Lily for making me start thinking onn this track.

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who's PMA is actually pretty good!