Hey, my m-in-law went home Saturday and we lived through it but I need to vent again. She was a sad pathetic mess this time - more confused than I've ever seen her. She spent the first 3 days yelling at us for stealing her clothes and changing her apartment around. She had no idea where she was. She would look at my 2 oldest sons and ask if they were brothers, they looked so alike. I had to put the kids on "grandma duty" so she would never be left alone. The rest of the visit she would ask us the same questions over and over - it was very sad and i don't think it was good for her to be taken out of her environment ( an assisted living center) to come visit us. At one point her daughter called and asked how things were going. I said I had never seen her this bad and her comment back, "You've never seen her this old." I did let my H do most of the work but after 1 week of her not getting her pills regularly I had to do that myself.
Why did she come to visit us? Because her daugher and my husband didn't want to travel up to see her and this got rid of their guilt. I really am so angry about this whole situation. I also see my future when I see my mom-in-law. This whole family i married into is very self-centered, depressed and selfish. It is always about them.
While driving in the car with my sons the other day I thought I am with my 3 most favorite people in the world. How will I live with H when they leave? My oldest will be a senior next year and can't wait to move out.
Someone asked me earlier about situation regarding work/etc. I work for my husband - I manage his office, do the janitorial and even transcription ( we have a part-timer who only works 3 afternoons a week - she won't work mornings or Fridays and is just about as spoiled as my H is!) I also do all work at home (H does do laundry sometimes) while sons do lawn work. I am a high energy person and don't mind this stuff when our sex life is good. For the first 10 years of marriage it was so no problem. But without sex on a regular basis, marriage is just not worth the effort. I am reaching the boiling point and talking to H does no good at all.
