I would love to know if this book was written or not. I am reading Sex-Starved Marriage, but am disappointed as to how little it addresses the Higher-Drived Wife.
My husband and I have been marriage 6 1/2 years, 3 children and lots of stresses. When we were dating, he was up for sex when I initiated it. I thought it was rather odd, but as long as he went along with it I didn't care. Then I had an ectopic pregnancy and he thought he was going to "hurt" me again. I told him it was ridiculous to think that way... but the sex got less and less infrequent. We also didn't have sex on our wedding night and only had sex on our honeymoon a couple times (which really pissed me off!). The most special trip and he acts like a prude. I'm very upset about this!
Then he went out two years ago and had an "emotional" affair. There was kissing and I think there was sex since they went to a hotel TWICE. He denies it. Considering his history though... it might be true. We nearly got divorced. He moved out, filed papers, etc... then came to his senses (thanks to advice from books like Divorce Remedy). That first month home was like a dream and we had sex everday! I even got tired of it! Then we missed a day... then skipped a few more days... then I found out I was pregnant with baby #3. So it became less and less. Since having the baby 13 months ago, sex happens only about once a month. I would be happy with once a week. He gets upset with me whenever I try to initiate sex and I try to point out that most of the time we do things his way! It's his choice to not be initimate not mine. I have to live with HIS sex-drive. He's happy with nothing - although I have found him looking at porn on his computers in his office!! I told him I didn't mind it if he'd include me in it! It bothers me he'll be down in his office with me upstairs WISHING he'd have sex with me. It just doesn't make sense.
What am I supposed to do? I'm not done with your book yet, but it really discourages me to hear about all these other men who would LOVE for their wives to have sex with them... I'd do anything for a husband like that.
Our relationship is very rocky and I'm trying to maintain some sense of intimacy (after HIS affair) and he continues to push me away. I am SO SO tempted to go find it from someone else. But with 3 small children, I couldn't risk breaking up their family. I'm so unhappy.
