What really struck me about your post and the baby issue is this...

If he really wants a child wouldn't you think he would at least want to have sex to make that happen. Maybe this could be more of a dream for you then for him?? That just seems really weird that he has expressed a desire for children and then never even touch you to at least try to attempt a pregnancy. I know when my husband and I decided to have a child he tried all the time. He would even initiate sex and say cute things like let's try to make that baby tonight honey. Or would rub my belly afterwards while cuddling and say maybe this one took. I knew and could really see deep down he wanted this.

I think everyone has brought up the baby issue because if you are not happy now a baby makes it so much harder to leave. Not saying you want to leave. I am sure right now you are wanting to fix this or learn to live with it. But what if years from now you decide you just can't. What if you haven't even fixed this or worked on it at all and you do end up pregnant and the sex is even worse after child number one? I agree don't give up your dream of having a child. I would just take some time to work on things before you do that.

Also saying negative things to him is not going to help things at all. I would just keep saying the positive things. Also I don't know if you have said or not but how is he if you initiate things? Does he reject you or is eager? Just curious if maybe he would like for you to do some intiating?