I second that. I have received much the same advice but the difference is that H and I already have one child together and are parenting two from my previous M. I will not deprive ANY of the three of them from the wonderful father that H is. What that means is that I may be forever giving up the sex life that I want. It is not fun. We have been trying to have another baby and the one conversation that I feel actually got my H to sit up and take some notice was several months ago when I expressed the thought that perhaps we shouldn't continue trying to have another baby due to the state of the relationship. H was SHOCKED that I thought it was so bad. He has made better attempts since then BUT our sex life is still lacking regularity, passion and experimentation. We are older and delaying having another baby may mean no more babies. You still have more of a choice than that. We aren't suggesting that you leave your H nor that you give up on the dream of having a baby. What about table the idea, get some counseling and look at things again in six months or a year?
