Thank you very much everyone for your input...but can we please get past this "starting a family thing" and just talk about everything else?
I do feel like I have to defend myself a bit in regards to Cobra's comments of feeling I am very co-dependent. Co-dependent, far from it...mothering, absolutely my tendency. If there was anything I feel my friends and family would definetely describe me as is independent...and although I am 7 years younger than my husband, unfortunately I have never been very typical for my age due to lots of responsibility. I can see though how my posts come across as my being a young wife with nothing else to do except worry about my husband. There's alot missing when it comes to the overall picture of "me" and our "marriage" since we are just focussing on our biggest problem. But, that's kind of beside the point.
So, overall, I am feeling noone will be able to give me much advice except to delay starting a family...it doesn't seem like too many people can get beyond that (please don't read this in a negative tone) even though they feel it's the best move in moving forward. Because, I would like to go beyond that and move forward to hearing what everyone has to say about dealing with a sex starved marriage without addressing the "wanting a family" situation. Is this possible?
