Jen,

Need… Want… It’s a little bit of semantics, but that’s my W’s attitude. From her perspective, our M is working.

Maybe you did make a mistake. Mistakes can always be undone (somehow). Are you considering where to go from here?

I’m starting to wonder if I can wait out the tough times. They’ve been going on for too long right now, and things are getting worse. I could probably be a lot more patient if I was only waiting for things to get better in my R, but I really don’t have much going for me in my life right now. I never liked the travel, but always could look forward to coming home to my W on the weekends. She’s so busy with her own pursuits, and our family obligations don’t stop on the weekends, so my R will really be on slow burn.

Sound desperate? I know Kent would whack me upside the head and tell me to stop obsessing. I hear echos of “Do something for yourself”. But frankly, I have enough individual time, and “something for yourself” is not what’s missing from my life.

Rayanne,

I know you were being facecious. Don’t know if you should throw subtlty to the winds. Maybe your idea isn’t so whacky. Needs some fine-tuning though [Wink]

As for me, I couldn’t even think of it, or even threaten it. That’s the catch-22. W doesn’t want intimacy with me. I want intimacy with her. She’s found ways of having her needs met with or without me (sometimes, despite me).

It’s the lowest common denominator. The person in a relationship that wants the least out of it is in control.

Andy

Andy