Ok...I'm gonna chime in with the other guys. Children, right now...probably should be put on hold....at least until this issue is resolved for the two of you. Consider any love-making you two do at this time to be "scrimmaging" for the real thing! Practice makes perfect ya know! But work through this issue first.
I'm glad for you that your H agreed to go see his Dr. and have his T level checked out...that's important, so many people really balk at this, but your H didn't. To me that shows he's making an effort to address this. There could be many reasons for your H's low T level too....it may take some time to ferret out the true cause of it, so it may take more time than you think for it to be corrected.
So...you've taken your H to the Doc....and you now know that at least he does have some type of medical reason that adds to his lack of libido (I'd have given just about anything to hear my H's T level was low when he was checked). Take some heart in that, it's absolutely, definitely not you....so try not to take it personally.
We had another LD gentleman on here, who no longer participates because he's a success story now, who found out his diet was a HUGE contributing factor to his lack of libido. Try looking up CSW's threads. CSW truly thought he was taking care of himself, eating right and exercising etc. Only to find out that one of the things he ate on a regular basis....was a main factor in his low libodo (Soy products in general). Can you tell us what type of diet your H has? While we're on the subject too....does your H work on on a regular basis?
Has he tried anything other than what his Dr. has suggested....anything homeopathic? Are you two going to counseling to help you work through the emotional issues this causes?
Ok...now with all of that said. YOU...stop the hurtful comments to him....full stop, period! Honest communication is one thing, telling him how you feel is one thing as well, but saying hurtful things to him that make him feel emasculated....that's not ok. When you find yourself on the verge of saying something hurtful to him, conciously tell yourself mentally "edit"....and stop yourself in your tracks. Making hurtful comments will do nothing but hurt the situation further.....and make you feel worse too. Look at it this way....how eager are you to be close with or intimate with someone.....who has just torn you down, who has just made you feel bad about yourself. Truth is...you aren't going to want to.
You have now found yourself a safe place to vent, to say those things that are just driving you ever-loving-freakin nutz from time-to-time, only now...you're among people who understand, who empathize, and who are living it just like you are. So come here and vent away, but don't take it out on your H....if he's truly trying to address this issue...ok?
So now that we've talked about your H....what are you doing for YOU? What are you doing to try to help yourself cope with this....besides talking to your family? Are you involving yourself in things you enjoy? Are you taking time for yourself with your friends? Or are you just going about your day as you always have? If that's the case...try to find something that you can do that makes you feel good. It will help you to have the energy to work through this.
Gotta run for now....hang in there, we're all here for you.
Oh and fair-warning. Those of us on here aren't afraid to give you a good whack upside the noggin with a 2 x 4 later on should you need that too LOL. I think we've all had one of those on here at one time or another....so just be warned. If we see you doing something destructive to your R or anything like that...well, we don't generally hold back. So just know, you will get truly honest feedback on here....but we're a family. We take care of each other.
But work through this issue first.
