BaltoMan said Second, stop trying to have a baby! I say the same things. Having kids complicates the whole situation. Having kids might make things worse.
Welcome to a sane place, this forum. Sorry you are in a SSM. Fix one thing at a time. Fix the sex drive for a year then have the kids. Other wise 10/15 years from now you will wanting to get out of the M maybe or want an affair. It happens to the best people.
