Shippd, she knows that it will hurt me. I have directly communicated my feelings to her. I have told her that her going will hurt me tremendously, but that I wasn't going to stop her. "That's true love" she said, and then "If I come back and you've done things like notified family, or moved out, I'll know your love wasn't strong enough."
This whole "fight for her" concept has left me, and I would venture to guess a whole lot of you all out there, totally confused. To fight, you need opposition, the A seems like the likely opposition, the threat. Fight the threat, and you are fighting against your S. No can do. So, the next enemy has to be the problems in the M, the ones caused by you. So the fight turns inward, introspectively battling your own issues in order to become a better person and a more worthy S. Somehow, this DOESN'T look like fighting, except to a COMPASSIONATE person. So the issue here is that behaviors that look like fighting are detrimental, begging, arguing, pleading, etc, but the real fight goes unseen. The responsibility for SEEING the fight falls on the shoulders of the WAS - and unless they are looking for it, they will not see it. They probably don't want to see it much of the time, and when they do, they want to see the pathetic, hurt, sad S that loves them so much they are falling apart in order to fuel their ego. So, where's the fight at? This is, of course, assuming that the LBS IS actually fighting here.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
