Shippd, thanks for your perspective. I have to admit that it puts me a bit on the defensive. I don't think I'm in a place to give ultimatums, nor do I want to. I'm not going hold my son over my W's head.
I do take responsibility for my son, and should my W abandon her post, I will be there for him. Should my W find someone to watch him that I don't agree with, I will be there for him.
I guess this comes down to a judgement of my W's character. She is someone who expects to always get what she wants. I guess I am trying to send her a message that she has made decisions, and gotten what she wanted, and now is ignoring the responsibilities that came along with those decision. She wants the freedom to do whatever she wants to, she needs to realize that her responsibility is her own. I know it comes across here like I am trying to teach her a lesson, I'm trying to fix her. The truth is, I am trying to fix myself. I have spent nearly my entire R with her appeasing her, and doing what I can do lesson the burden of life. This is a fault in myself that I need to learn to fix. I accept and own what is mine - and I need to STOP owning what's not.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
