muddle: you say that you would love the time with your son. so take the time that you will be getting. you do not have to help her with her plans. i think you are forgetting one important part here, that is your son. if you dont take him, then who will, would you trust a stranger or someone you do not like to have him the whole time she is away? i wouldnt. you dont agree with what she is wanting to do, nor do i blame you either, cause i sure wouldnt. i would tell her that im taking son, and when you get back me and son will be gone. period. no more words to say, sometimes tough love is the best love, and your wife needs to know that. this well if she feels like im stopping her from going that she will always use that against me, bullshi#, this is all about you and your son, lets face it she will do whatever she wants to, dont be affaid to stand up for your family, maybe thats whats she is looking for, maybe not. like you said you think this is morally wrong, and so does the rest of the world, including her. i would call her on it and tell her that if she wants to go, thats fine, but me and son will be gone.
