Quote: Bad? I prefer to look at it as "this way", lol. I think this sort of judgement does no good for my outlook on the situation. Things are what they are, maybe they're not what we'd like them to be, but I wouldn't call them bad
Well, I am all for being positive, but if my marriage were not "bad" before, my W probably would not have done what she did and we both contributed to that. I have no problem admitting that things were bad, therefore, they can be MUCH better.
I my case, the codependancy was/is BAD. It is not good for eitehr of us and one of the key defining things about the state of our "old" marriage that I DON'T want to go back to again.
That's only speaking for me. Your sitch may be a bit, or a lot different.
