Quote: I then told her that although I really didn't like the reasons she was doing what she was doing, I really liked the fact that she was facing her personal demons and taking control of them in order to persue her happiness.
Again, open, direct validation of her, and she responded.
Quote: She openly acknowledged that my "letting her go" was making her feel more close to me, and that it would make it more difficult for her to go because she has that much more reason to feel guilty.
Isn't that what DB is all about? Letting feelings happen as a result of our changes and not forcing them? Good for you.
Quote: So, needless to say - there's a bit of encouraging behavior on her part. She's still so deeply entrenched in this that I'm sure we still have a long way to go. Even though it felt really good to be close again last night, I KNOW that my happiness isn't intertwined with her perspective on me because I'm no less happy today than I was yesterday. This to me spells serious progress on my part.
Huge I would say. Great job, and keep it up. You are detaching with the best of em!
