Quote: Does this warrant an explaination of my perspective? GH, you told me you thought I talked to my W too much about things, and I guess this is just one of those things she should wonder about. I guess I'm still far too concerned with what she thinks, and wanting to set her straight.
I have the same problem and I fail sometimes in keeping things to myself. All I can say is that no matter WHAT you say, she's likely to form her own opinion about what you are doing. She's going to paint you passive, or as "not caring" and there's not much you can do about it. If you try to explain things to her, she's either going to take it as a lie or a desperate attempty to get her to "understand" and therefore, come to her senses.
I know you long to be understood. I do too, and I believe that my W has little clue what I am doing right now. Is that good for my sitch? I don't know. Sometimes I think it is and other times, like now, I think not. What I do know is from the lips of my W I was told that R talks and pressure WILL NOT work, and will push her away, so since this agrees with my DB ideas, I honor that request. It's all I can do. It's all I KNOW to do.
