I have the same sitch in my R. W usually will ask me to do things for her, but the difference is that usually it's little thinks like stop by the store and pick something up, bring her the iron from upstairs, etc. It's almost always something I don't mind doing. The problem with me, and maybe you, I don't know, is that I always resented her for not doing as much for me as I did for her.
Know what though, there was one HUGE thing missing from that equation; my ASKING for what I wanted. When I was honest and looked back, the times I DID ask directly for what I wanted, she usually had no problem doing it. When I beat around the bush, or did the passive/aggressive dance, i.e. Gee, I really wish I didnt have to go downstairs and get that paper versus, honey, could you please bring up my paper?
My point is that I don't really see a problem with doing what they ask so long as it goes both ways, and while I USED to think it didn't in my sitch, I now understand that I have to learn how to directly communicate what I want, and when I do, like she does, there usually is very little, if any resistance.
