I'm realizing more and more that what I'm thinking of as detaching is sort of a more of the same issue. I have been able to maintain my mood through the wild swings my W has, but I have sort of tried to maintain my space with respect to her, although I have been aware of not smothering her. Hard to articulate, but I feel that despite my attempts to change my smothering behavior, I don't feel that I have really addressed the reason within myself for this NEED. This is something that I have been wrestling with for a little while, because it bothered my W before this and now with all the guilt induced claustrophobia, I feel that it is very obvious. I think for the most part I have been managing my actions well with respect to this, but I know it comes out sometimes - often at the wrong times. I recognize now that this is something that prevents me from being whole, and is a manifestation of the idea that someone else will make me secure and happy. I guess this detaching stuff really is in itself an exercise in self exploration and healing.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
