It seems to me that if DBing's somewhat passive nature can be viewed by a WAS as a form of begging or pleading, there is little to no benefit, with the exception of the benefit to the BAS (as long as the self exploration and changes being made are genuinely for them self).
I can't understand how DBing can be seen as begging or pleading. DB is TOTALLY opposite of that. It seems like you are set, as you were before, on doing things in a way that is contrary to DB, or your perception of it. That's fine, but understand that when you ask for advice from us here, you will get advice based on DB, which is too "passive" for your sitch.
Like I said, claiming that DB in ANY way is akin to begging and pleading demonstrates a fundamental lack of understanding, at least from my perspective, of what is advocated by DB but I submit that each of us needs to interpret the information we gather in our own way. You and I obviously will have to agree to disagree on the fundamental nature of DB.
I do hope you find success. I think you sound like you have a really good head on your shoulders and a solid plan that you are committed to. As I said, sometimes knowing what you want and having the fortitude to actually STICK to that is worth it's weight in gold.
