Good thoughts here. I happen to think that we hear what we want to hear. This is predicated of course on expectations too. My W asked me last night "What if I got pregnant tomorrow...how would you react to this if I stopped working, stayed at home, became less attractive etc..." Well of course my answer is in total conflict with my behaviour when she was pregnant before. And this is not what she will believe. But then again she probably expected me to say this. So how I replied is different then what she believes. That given new behavior will replace old thoughts. Unfortunatley huge amounts of time are required for this. An unfortunatley again most probably throw in the towel before the time elapses. Or they are so stuck they can't be objective about things.
