I’ve been tossing around the idea of W visiting me. I’m not sure if it’s possible. Babysitting and all (esp. S#2). Depending on how long this engagement lasts, it may be possible for the family to visit. My in-laws live about an hour’s drive from where I’ll be working. They aren’t amenable to babysitting, but we may be able to work something out. Dunno.
You can be sure that I’ll make use of the hotel gym and/or pool. I’ll also find a way to practice my karate.
When I arrive, I plan on checking things out. Find the movie theatres, etc.
This project sounds like a very scary proposition. I know you don't want to do it.
Kinda like the project we are all working on right now...our marriages. We don't want to do some of the things we must do. We see the final goal and know we have to go through the process to arrive at that goal, but we still don't want to do it.
I wish there were less unknowns for you with this project, but again the analogy is there. Our R's are loaded with unknowns as well.
You are helping, Jen. It really is nice to have someone to talk to; albeit via post/email.
W is giving me advice similar to Laurie. I.e.: have a good time while I’m out there. Find things to do. Don’t overwork myself. She also suggested that perhaps I could rent a car instead of taking the plane. It’s about a 4 ½ hour drive. The downside is that 4 ½ hours each way may turn out to be too much for me to handle. Especially if our winter weather doesn’t cooperate. I think I’ll stick with the plane for the moment.
W, d#2 and s#1 are going to BIL for nephew’s christening. She offered to take S#2 as well, but I figure she needs a break. She figures I need a break, too. Nice that she thinks of me.
I hope so too, Andy. That's also a little scary, isn't it?
When my H moved out of the house Sept. 2, it was like he no longer thought of me at all. He didn't appear to think of me much while he was in the house either. But now I wonder if he ever thinks of me and the kids during the day, or if his mind is just so into himself that we are totally insignificant to him.
Honestly, Jen, I’m not so afraid that she’ll forget me again. I truly believe that OR is better than it was 2 years ago. But, like 2 years ago, this will force W to do everything for herself. She’s very proud of her independence. This pride came close to becoming a phobia of dependence – especially dependence on me. I’m afraid of reinforcing this mindset by not being around.
Also, I’m a hopeless homebody. I love relaxing at home with W and kids in the evening. I love my karate routine. I love dropping in on friends and having them drop in on me. I love my morning coffee with W and (when it happens), my Sunday breakfasts.
All of this is soon to disappear from my life. I don’t know when or for how long. The last word I got was that they want to rent apartments instead of using hotels. Doesn’t bode well for me.
Rayanne,
Please don’t apologize for not getting back to me. I wasn’t expecting it. I only wanted to express my appreciation to you, and if possible return the favour. You always managed to pop up whenever I was feeling low, and I appreciate it immensely.
If possible, maybe for the future year, another job may be in order if this is bothering you so much. No job, however wonderful is worth family and love. Take the steps then to change the situation - but dont be rash, think it out and see every angle. Just my thoughts. Deep breaths!
There's so much that I don't know about how things will pan out in my current job. I'm in high tech, so the job market isn't exactly ripe. So, the upshot is that I have to stick it out where I am. At least for now.
No job, no matter how wonderful is worth family and love. True. Fact is, I hate my job. I'm doing it for family.
Amazing what even putting out some feelers will do for you, i.e., headhunters, etc. I have been laid off twice in 4 years and I have no fear anymore. If it makes you even feel a little better, dont sell yourself short and at the least, look around. You might be amazed that a new job could put a WHOLE new spin on things. Take a small plunge and at least start browsing...it gives one great PMA to start seeing new paths open up.
I hear you Nicole. I’ve been there too. Problem right now is that I know too much to stay where I’m at, and not enough to advance. I may have opportunities to advance within my current situation, but would have to prove myself at a new company.
Before I can change jobs, I have to figure out what I want to be when I grow up
I do know that, with my current skillset, there’s nothing locally. Any job I would move to would require travel. I could take a step down, and perhaps get something locally, but it would entail a major pay cut which I can’t afford.
However, headhunters is my plan “B”. Should it ever come down to it, and I get laid off, I would get enough severance to tide me over until I got some contract work.
