Thanks green-and no it wasn't clear as mud - it was actually very well put!
That's pretty much what I thought you were saying, that is has to, at some point, come down to more than who was right or wrong. You must "let go" (thanks KentS for that!!). I really do believe that....putting it into practice is also pretty easy...it's the keeping it there that I struggle with.
I am much further along than most, my sit has not been nearly as bad as many others here on this BB, and for that I am truly grateful. I know in many eyes I 'got it good'. I also know some feel that I whine entirely too much, admittedly sometimes I do (usu once a month). But that's what makes this such a great place - the freedom and forum to be able to 'whine' any time I feel I need to. To the defense of myself and others, better here than to spouses.
I have a (slight) tendency to over-analyze and over-react, I have been working on that. The over-react thing I've got a good handle on, it's the in-my-brain-housing-group over-analyzing that I can't seem to stop entirely. It's what's inside my head that drives me nuts....you stated that at some point we will have to forget, I wonder if that holds true for everyone. Forget....I don't know if I ever will. Forgive? Already have.
Andy, I'm glad to hear about your W including you more...that's one thing I desire most about my H's life, is to be included. I have an edge up on most spouses 'cause I used to do what he does (green-suiter) so I can talk the talk and understand the pressures...he finds it easy to talk to me about work, whereas when I tell him about my day (lab-rat) his eyes glaze over!!
Keep on keeping on, and remember not to overanalyze everything she does - or doesn't do (yeah, like I'M a good one to give THAT advice, huh!!!)
