Greenbar-I have a question for you...not trying to 'start' anything, and I do understand what you're saying about being right thing, the absolute worst day of my life was when I found out that I was "right" after all. Sometimes it really sucks to be right, but in my case ignorance and denial were the alternative, so....
Anyway, I just wanted to ask you what you meant about the rights and wrongs of straying. I think what you're saying is that no matter who did what in a M that there is no absolute 100% WRONG person and no absolute 100% RIGHT person. No one is entirely blame-less. Is that a good read on what you said? I understand that through all of my 'marital problems' and even before I realized there WAS a problem, I was responsible for certain things. Maybe a good way to think about what you say about not assigning right or wrong is to say "responsibility for ones actions"....? I didn't see what I was doing at the time, but now I fully accept 'blame' for what I contributed.
However, all that having been said....I can never ever ever even begin to think that there is ever a time or sit where a EA/PA is not considered "wrong". Flat out-wrong.
I'm not saying you're saying that there is a time when it isn't wrong....oh wait - no, yeah, that's right...- I think I'm confusing myself! I know what you're saying, but please tell me if I've mis-understood what you meant...and that is that the 'blame game' is a waste of time and ends up being counter-productive in the long run. Assigning blame, even tho one/both parties are in fact WRONG, will not serve any purpose.
I read your quote a few posts back and thought....what? Then I re-read it, and went back through all your posts on this thread and just wanted to get a more in depth view out of you...if'n you don't mind. ta
