No, please, I value your input greatly. Don't worry about being new to me. The phone stuff is not something I have posted much about before.
Quote: IMO, you're too upset and emotional to confront her today or tonight. 24 hour rule.
Ok. I can try, but I think she will confront ME about it at some point this evening. Even then, back off?
Quote: If you have an agreement to be honest, then hold her to it, if YOU are ready to deal with the consequences of dishonesty in that conversation.
We do have that agreement. It was put in place when I asked her point blank if I could count on her to be honest with me after she confessed a LOT of details about her affair, including the specifics of when she was dishonest (or at least SOME of the specifics). She seemed like she wanted to come clean so I asked her if I could count on that kind of honesty going forward and she said absolutely yes. I agreed at that point to try to be open with her as well.
That's where I am really getting confused. I want to be open with her but what I am feeling is clearly at least SOME percentage paranoia and could be ALL paranoia for all I know. If it is, then pursuing it much farther is only going to worsen my situation.
Thank you WCW for helping. You really have. Please, post early and often.
As for me, I am just feeling all kinds of things right now. I am just upset at a situation that I likely CANNOT know the truth about so I am forced to either trust W or let it go...or stew on it and make a decision on what I DO know, which is VERY little.
I don't feel powerless, or victimized, just weary and confused. I have options but which one to do?
I just keep thinking over and over again that IF she wants to show me she's working on "us" then she should be willing to do SOMETHING other than simply take in air in our house.
These kinds of thoughts are almost SURELY responsible for my current suspicions. Nothing going on between us+unaccounted for time=affair. I know I am probably wrong, but I have that same feeling in my gut I did for all those months. It sucks.
