Ok, well too late (sorta). She just called. That was AFTER her mother called ME to ask me to call W to ask HER to call mum...get all that. Her mother had tried to get in touch with her and failed as well.
Anyway, to WCW, yes, I KNOW my W has real phone issues. I have been with her and she grabs her phone, only to see that there are a couple missed calls. I know she doesn't have it on vibrate or anything. When it's in her purse, it just doesn't ring very loud. Also, her phone is a piece of crap and she needs to get it replaced (it has actually been recalled) so yes, it is VERY possible she was just having "issues".
Now, back to W's call. Here it is...
W: I'm sorry. I didn't know you were coming over to meet me. I thought when I told you we weren't eating yet, you said "ok" that you were NOT coming. You didn't have to get all angry and rude. M: I was angry, but not rude. I was just frustrated that I couldn't get ahold of you. Where were you in the mall? W: We were in store x around that time. M: I went in store x and didn't see you. I also went in stores y & z too. I walked around for a while before giving up. I just thought we had plans and your phone wasn't working. W: No, I just didn't hear my phone. I now see my mom called too. As for the dealership, I was not expecting them to call until after 2. I wasn't expecting ANYONE to call since I didn't think you were coming. Sorry you wasted your time. M: Ok, fine. Did you get to eat? W: Yes. M: Ok. BTW, did you see all that stuff they put in the middle of the mall (SLAP AWAY EVERYONE). W: No, what do you mean? M: The kids stuff. You didn't see that? W: No, I must have missed it. M: Ok. Well, call me later when you find out what time your car is going to get ready. W: Actually I am leaving to go back there now because GF has to go get some things done...
Overall she was REALLY pleasant, which is a HUGE 180 for her. Usually when I get upset, so does she. Actually, I am even more suspicious now than before. She NEVER reacts to me that way. Sure, I was direct and open, but, well, yes, that COULD have been it, but my stupid (SLAP, SLAP, SLAP) test told me something too. She would have had to physically walk through the area I was talking about to get between the stores she went to. She WOULD have noticed it because it was a kid's play area, something that mall has lacked (and we have talked about this) since it opened. She's lying. I am almost sure. Her tone and approach suggested it. Her "leaving now" to go back suggested it and her "not knowing" about the new play area suggests it.
What do I do now? Go back to the "old" totally mistrusting, detaching, full-on affair DB mode? I don't feel that's right. I feel like I committed to honesty and directness and to "earn" my way back to being totally unsure of her and her words, I have to directly ask her about my suspicions. IF she refuses to answer, or lies to my face, then what.
She SAID she was going to be honest. At the end of this day, is it wrong for me to hold her to that? Is it wrong of me to ask her more about today and reveal my suspicions? She probably already knows what I think. Is it wrong to just be open about it?
I am really confused right now. I actually WANT to be slapped into reality. I WANT to be wrong. I don't WANT to be right about any of this but I DO want to move past it, one way or the other.
