GH I wish I had wise words for you, as you have always shared when the rest of us are spiraling in frustration... I guess I have more of a question...When you NEED affirmations from your spouse that things are how they say they are, and you have established you are in an honest and communicative relationship, is it wrong to ask for that? It seems from your posts the past week, that maybe you need to sit her down and tell her how you feel...just my thoughts, but I am not feeling particularly rational today so, grain of salt my friend!