I have to fess up here becuase in looking back at my own experiences, this is a LARGE part of why I got involved with the situation I did several years ago. I really hate bringing up my own shortcomings, but even when the hammer fell I wanted to avoid any confrontation at all with either my W or the OW and found that is was very hard to end things just because of that very reason.

I guess to be fair, I wonder how much that really led up to what i was doing in the first place....I suppose I felt that my "needs" weren't being met, but was I forthcoming in what those needs really were?

A good point to ponder GH....and now it has me wondering quite a bit about things.


"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu