SomeONE wrote this over on MB's thread....maybe you would find it helpful in your sitch.
Quote: The point is that we want to learn to directly communicate with our spouses, good, bad, or ugly, WITHOUT fear of how they will react. We need to learn to be honest without hedging that honesty on what their reaction may be. We are not them and thinking we know how they'll react to everything we say is a form of control.
