Actually, GM, thank you and, yes, it IS good she's asking for backrubs but I think it's ONLY because she KNOWS it won't lead anywhere. You see, in our life, sex almost ALWAYS started with a backrub. It was a comfort zone for both of us and in particular, sex started with a "slight grazing of the fingers". I'll never forget when OT almost to the "T" described my "oops, I touched a breast" technique.

Bottom line is that those days are over and W knows it. I told her so. If sex is going to start, I don't want it to be the same 'ole thing.

Of course, I HAVE tried a COUPLE times the "old" way but she let me know that it wasn't going to work.

I think the whole "back rub pathway to sex" routine is MUCH too passive for her. She wants more agressive, passionate initiation from me. I know OT, it sounds like I am either saying your lines for you, or that I am full of $hit to be saying this and not doing it. I KNOW what she wants as much as I know she doesn't want it RIGHT now, today, this minute...as much as I know that she WILL want it sooner than later.

Back to RB's post, I really just feel that my KNOWING what to do and wanting to do it is the first step. The next one WILL come and when it does...

GH

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