I HAVE told her it's ok and I have been doing these kinds of things for weeks now with seemingly no change. When we go to bed, she still stays WAY over to her side and the only real contact we have is my back rub, which again, she asks for. I COULD say no I guess, but I don't see the benefit in that other than me seeting a boundary that if she won't "do more" I won't rub her back. I just don't want it to be that way, where I am only, once again, doing for her just so she'll do for me.
Maybe somehow I am just missing out on when that "next step" should happen. Maybe I am missing the opportunites to take that step. I THINK I have tried at every opportunity and even created opportunity where there was none, all to no avail. She shuts me down every time, either through directly telling me to stop or giggling her way away from me, or some other way of changing the subject/moment.
Like I said eariler today, it seems like she is tolerating me at best, humoring me to not hurt my feelings. If this is the case, then I don't need to be wasting my time.
This is why I want to talk to her, to find out if it's as you say, she's nervous, afraid, etc, or if she's just not interested right now. I think it's time to have that talk so I can adjust my actions accordingly.
