when she says no, do you stop right away, or do you take that as a no, give me more before shesays yes. be a saleman on this. when you go to the store and want to buy a stove, do you tell the salesman no first hoping he will give you more before you say yes. she is doing the same thing. give her a reason to say yes, keep probing (without pissing her off) to get her to say yes. try it, it just might work out. i did for me, it was hard, my w does not live with me, but she would reject my advances but i keep trying. communicate, say things you know she likes, tell her you need to release some testostone. tell her its just for fun, nothing other then that, that you dont expect it all the time, im telling you, you dont want a sexless marriage and neither does she. you have to be the man and continue to persue her in regards to sexual intimacy. i promise you she is scard to have sex with you, but you have to get the fear out of her head. pursue, pursue,and pursue some more.if she says no, she wants you to tell her why to say yes. no remember if she really starts to get pissy, then back off, but be fun about it. mark her laugh, joke about it, but dont make it a discusion. dont back her into a corner to talk about it. make sure you still leave her an out.
