GOOD JOB! See how much you've done, and it's all so natural now for you, b/c you seem happy about the changes yourself.
Now, as far as 'results' in the M. You know that it's not as easy as that. There was her emotional divorce, her A, her 'coming back' and sort of metamorphosis on both of your parts. Yours good, hers bad. And then, she now has to wake up to the fact that it was NOT just you in the M, there are things she needs to change too, BESIDES the whole mess of the A. Lots of stuff.
The way I see it in my sitch is that for the last 7-8 months, I have been doing nothing but 100% effort in the positive direction, building, repairing, changing. H has done nothing but 100% effort in the negative direction....A, abandoning me, destructive behaviors. We've both been active, in very opposite ways. Now, he's stopped the negative stuff, and has yet to move in a positive direction. He's just still now. That's where your W is at as well. Not moving in either direction. I guess it's a good sign that thigns are not going south with her anymore. Now, to Phase 2.....
You keep up what you're doing. I firmly believe that your CONSISTENCY and DILIGENCE and CARE are what pulled her out of the negative spiral in the first place, which is HUGE. Now, she's turning back to you b/c she REALLY TRUSTS you....you don't believe it, but she does. My C said that though H abandoned, his not getting a D and seeing changes and believing them took a LOT of faith and trust. Value that by keeping up the consistent effort.
