Thanks for a :-) today OT. I was beginning to think I would never get one...not that I NEED that from you, lol.
Anyway, yes, time IS important to me but damnit, impatience has been a HUGE issue with me in the past on several different fronts so I think maybe exercising a little MORE patience is going to make me a better man than allowing my impatience and frustration to have me set boundaries I don't really need right now.
I am 100% set on that conversation needing to happen, and sooner than later so in terms of what I want, that's it right now. In the long term, I want a relationship with my W where BOTH of us feel wanted and loved. I want a vibrant, passionate sex life that stems from BOTH of our desire for it, not just mine. I want her to instigate physical touch and on a regular basis (this will be a tough one because she claims to have always been a non-instigator) and I want to kiss my W more than once a month, maybe even TWICE a month, lol.
I want a lot and before all this, I didn't realize that. Hell, I didn't think I deserved it. Sometimes, I still stuggle with that.
I am just frustrated right now and venting. I CAN see light at the end of the tunnel and that's why I reacted the way I did...well part of the reason. I think things WILL work out but that it may just take a little more time.
Somewhere it says to allow a month for every year of marriage in terms of reconciliation time. If that time starts when the actual "reconciliation" startes, then we are on month 2 of 10...maybe I need to wait a LITTLE more.
Once again, waiting or not, I want to talk to her as NM suggested, and VERY soon.
