GH, my w was the same way about ML. didnt want to go there. i just keep being persentant. gave her alot of complements, did unwanting touching, the whole bit. she refused and refused, but i kept trying. what i finally did was i went and got massage oils and told her that i wanted to help her relieve her stress, gave her several massages before i got to the point of ML to her. if and when you do convince her to ML, you have to do an 180 in that department. what ever you did in the past, you can not do now. i know its working for me, but it is slow moving with m w and she keeps trying to talk herself out of the good feelings she is having, but i know for a fact that if i didnt get the ML part back in my sitch we would not be even close to where we are now. so you really need to try to get this going with her, some way, use probring questions, find out what her hot buttons are and then push them and push them, she will come around. she deffenatley wants to feel sexual with you, but she might be affaid how you will react, because of the A. my w told me she didnt think i could ever ML to her again because of the fact that she was with another man, your wife might be feeling the same way as mine, i dont know, but you have to show her that is not the case, just make sure you give her great pleasure, before anything else, make sure its a mind blowing experience for her. read some books on how to pleasure a women, use different tech. im not saying you dont already know how to pleasure her, just do something different, something she would not expect.
