Quote: If OT or anyone for that matter can give some suggestions on how to move forward, it would sure be appreciated.
Amen sister!
Quote: GH, I didn't mean to imply that your marriage was over. I don't think mine is either. Although, I have a huge trust issue right now and have been told so many lies that sometimes it is hard for me to believe things that H tells me about our future. He could be telling me these things to shut me up and pacify me all the while making promises of a life with the OW. Who the heck knows.....
No problem, I guess my response to you was still kinda about OT's post.
Also, without seeming to be slighting YOUR sitch, I was trying to say that I don't THINK my W has lied to me outright in some time. I DO think she may have had contact with OM, but I have NO evidence of that OR even anything that would make me suspicious other than the simple fact that it would be EASY for her to do. In that way, I think our sitches are a bit different.
I don't feel like trust is an issue I struggle with daily anymore so it's really all about the progress of our relationship or lack-thereof.
Quote: What I do know is that our marrage cannot improve without a physical relationship, in fact it will die a slow and painful death. I have made attempts but he does not seem responsive so I back off for fear of making a fool of myself and being rejected.
Oh, you mean like the slow, painful death my relationship already went through for similar reasons (I think)? I feel the same way but like I keep saying, I AM doing things differently and she can't help but notice. I don't think she either trusts me that it's real...
(actually she said this in the last R talk, that all my "romance" seems to be something I am trying to do to impress her...or something like that, to which I replied, BS and you know it...she said she DID know it but needed more time to "KNOW" it)
...or she is feeling stressed about life in general and not thinking about "that" right now...or she is feeling guilty about the recent past and it's a barrier...or who knows what else....
What I KNOW is that I am committed to doing something to change the situation but it does NOT have to be today. I may be feeling the pressure and frustration but hey, what else is new. I have chosen to live this for the last 6 months or so, what's another day or two or week?
