Sorry you are going thru this...your post to OT carried so much pain...it's very palpable even thru cyber space.
I may not offer very good advice, but here's an idea. I agree with OT and what she said. I also really don't believe that your W's "temporary situation" has anything to do with sex. BS- she could probably use something to relieve her stress.
GH - find some 180's you can do. Do you and your W email each other during the day? Go to Oh, what's the name of that store....Spencer's - they sell some adult oriented stuff. Go buy one of those adult games....the one where you & your wife can "DO" things without doing "IT". And tell her. Email her, say tonight we're going to make some time for each other....and OH, by the way honey, we're NOT going to make love. We're just going to play this game for a half an hour. Ya know what, I'll bet THAT will pique your W's interest. Knowing that while you want to ML, you're not going to make any moves other than what's in the game.
Better yet - tell HER to go to the mall and get a game of HER choosing. If she can - of course, I know, the drivers license thing and all. Maybe this sounds completely off the wall, GH, and contrary to the way you're trying to handle things. But it doesn't look like your way is working, either.
