From my standpoint, you have every right to have a bitch session, WITH US! In the same way that you are here for so many of us, we are here for you. Use this place as your bitch session round table and consider us your knights. Hopefully you complaining here will help to relieve stress, confusion, anger and self-focus.
I know that I often feel better logging in and "blabbering" all of my thoughts and feelings onto my thread. As my counselor told me, I am a classic extrovert because I process thought, feelings, information by "talking" about them. Honestly, this site is the best therapy I have ever had. From all of you, I get caring, perspective, insight, direction, encouragement, spiritual guidance, and DB/DR wisdom. I believe you get similar feelings too, GH.
I look forward to having your kinds of issues in the future. That would mean growth. Remember to look at how far you have already travelled in your DB journey, NOT how far you still need to go. Be solution-oriented. And remember, the measure of a man is how he behaves when he is at his lowest point. I am often helped my saying and a mantra. My saying is
Quote: BE HERE NOW.
To me this means to focus on what is, not what I wish for. It also means to stay out of the world of "should", which is full of judgment and criticism. My mantra since I have entered the world of infidelity and DBing in:
Quote: It is what it is and I am where I am.
To me this means accept me for who I am now. Stive to be the man that God always intended me to be, but be happy with who I am now. Work to make correct decisions and always learn and grow from poor dicisions.
I don't mean to minimize your struggles, GH. I want you to celebrate the work that YOU have done and the growth YOU have made. Be proud of GH. I am proud to know GH here. I look at you as an inspiration. I apologize that I am neck deep in my own sitch that I don't post on yours more often.
If you only need words of encouragement from us sometimes, just say so in your posts and we will respond.
